Pedagogy

It is natural that one develops friends in life. The development of friends seems to have undergone some metamorphosis. The consideration for friendship in yester years seems to have had varied founding principles than the criteria of the day. Inwardly however, the objectives of the friends seem to have remained same through. This paper looks at the divergent orientations of yester year and present day friendship. The paper looks at friendship through the period as so evolutionary.

Buddies play key roles in molding individuals. The choice of friends is a complex and very fast evolving phenomenon. The decision on the best friend has evolved so fast with diverse orientations. Similarly, the very termination of the said relationship has undergone relative evolution. The building of relationships in medieval times was very elaborate with very specific traits being sought.

The choice of friends was not only a process but a very vital gesture for that. Whenever individual wanted to make pals in their youth, the character of the supposed friend was very pivotal. It never happened as a coincidence it was progressively developed, and came into existence so automatically to notice even to the friends themselves (Reis and Caryl 2004 p.182). Today, friendship is built so automatically with the least considerations. The development of this cardinal relation is so incidental today that at the end of the relationship, not much can be celebrated.

The values of friendship transcended bounds of economic stature. Interest in prospective pals was so sincere to the word with much attention being given to the strength of the prospective friend. Development of friendship today is so much based on cast, status and the economic state of the parties. Friendship among diverse groups is so limited with those trying it out being regarded as backward.

Social places served as major joints for developing sound relationships. These places included schools, workplaces and learning institutions. Currently, relationships in learning institutions have been resented. Most of the relationships started and developed in these social places are turning out to be very materialistic. Besides, friendship is offering the least for individual social development.

Communication amongst friends offered an exciting and worthwhile course. Letters showed the meaning and depth of the friendship. Feelings were expressed in meaningful and passionate word on paper. This offered worthwhile review, revision and rethinking of the relation. This culminated in strong unending relation beyond odds. In the present day friendship, much communication is done through mobile phone calls and short message services, with the least tincture of feelings left for record. Emails play centre stage in the host of relationships today. Feelings are expressed so passionately withdrawn so painfully, leaving the friends more devastated than inter alia. Here, the object of a friend tends to loose the very meaning of its inception.

Technology is apparently the real friend. Persons tend to simply play second fiddle. Through face book, attributes of a friend are infinitely portrayed through this vital technological advancement. People become friends online, friendship remain an online affair with the least gesture of personal contact and feelings. Ultimately, an ideal friend should be there for the friend. Yes, but the contextual friendship today is friendship for circumstantial reasons (Reis and Caryl 2004 p.174). The ideals of friendship may just be disappearing with the advent of face book, which, was meant to ideally support the pursuit of friendship.

The order of the day offers the best environment for development and sustenance of friends. Conversely however, the technological advancement tends to be watering away the very tidal role of friendship. Notably, these technological advances need be most welcome to those nurturing friendship, if not yearning for friendship. Mobile technology should link friends at all times, say when dating, to avoid frantic frustrations. Face book can be used informatively to access the advances of the friend. Emails should offer in-depth updates of the goings-on on both ends of the friendship chain. Vividly, this ought to be the cardinal role of technological advancement in friendship. Contrarily, even with this development, the friendship trends of the day seem to be watered away more than the friendship of yester years. However, the differences are brought about by how the relationships are developed rather than the technological patterns.